For various and assorted reasons, I’ve needed to access the basics – things I already know but that tend to get obscured by habit, daily life, and managing all of the above. I’m not exactly dating at the moment, but one of the books that I picked up was the Tao of Dating, the version for the girls. The book itself is unusually helpful. For that matter, so is the Author, who responded to my note quickly and helpfully. To put that in context, I rarely write an author to thank them for the book, but this was an exception. He reminded me of some things I was in serious danger of forgetting – things I know but that tend to get lost in the cacophony of voices that have nothing to gain from me maintaining my balance.
I’ve looked at a number of the sites that purport to tell women how to catch and keep a man. In fact, I think one of them is catchandkeep.com Seriously. In some ways, this author is working from much the same platform. You can download the book in e-format, or you can get it from Amazon where it is (I suspect) self-published and twice as expensive as most other paperbacks for sale. It is unfortunate, in a way, that the author runs the risk of being tainted by the competition. All of that aside, I highly recommend the book. There are a number of take-aways, first and foremost is don’t lose yourself in the process – you are the buyer, not the commodity being bought. Second, and equally important: it is all in how you frame the situation.
Totally worth the asking price and this one comes with the advantage of being able to buy it in hard copy to write all over (which I did). It isn’t just for dating, it could also be called The Tao of Retaining Yourself All Day and Every Day. Worth the $40. Every penny. If you don’t have the money, remember this:
Hang on to yourself. Or go with my Oma’s advice: Love many, trust few, always paddle your own canoe.