People don’t do things because of who we are, they do them because of who they are.
“Hey baby, I want to get back together…” more often than not means “look, I knew how to manage you and it was a comfortable place for me to be. Since we broke up I’ve been out in the world and been in at least one relationship where I didn’t feel like I was in control and it sucked and I’m feeling kind of bruised, so what I’m going to do here is call up my favorite kite* and tell you how much I miss you and what a mistake I made in leaving you. And then you are going to say “ok” because I left you and that made you feel out of control and this is your opportunity to make a choice in the situation. We’ll get back together for as long as it takes all the things that I broke up with you over before to irritate the shit out of me, or until I feel sufficiently salved or until you realize that it wasn’t all that great and the girl you left hanging to think this through was actually much easier on your ego, your wallet, and your bullshit detector. Thanks.”
I’m just saying. It looks like it is about you and how wonderful you are. It sounds like it is about you and how wonderful you are. It feels like it is about you and how wonderful you are. It is actually about her and wrapping her bruises up in the salve of being able to make you come when she calls.
For your sake, I hope I’m wrong. Meanwhile, I’ll be listening to Gomez.