This is something I’ve talked around in various and assorted posts, but not something I’ve ever addressed directly.
Enough is not a meaningful measure. What is “enough” anyway? Who gets to call it? A house that is big enough for me wouldn’t be nearly big enough for a Kardashian. Enough is a relative measure, entirely subjective, and it moves constantly. Because as soon as we reach a point where we would have called it “enough” before we got there, suddenly, it is no longer good enough. Because we’re there and a lot of us (not all, but many) are convinced we’ll never be enough so if we can do it, then the “it” that needs to be done must be a little further ahead.
A year ago, I would have told you that swimming a mile every other day would be more than enough. Now I’m doing two miles every other day and I wonder if maybe I shouldn’t be pushing myself to do a little more because maybe two miles isn’t good enough.
That’s just ridiculous.
On the other hand, this striving for a target of enough that we move beyond our grasp isn’t all bad. Doubt is a good thing. It keeps us open-minded, it keeps us learning, it keeps us growing.
But for functioning in life, for moving forward, for taking a leap of faith, am I good enough is a pretty rotten question.
The reality is that you’ve gotten this far. You’ve made some mistakes, you’ve screwed some things up royally. You’re still here. You’re still breathing. You’ve survived some shitty days and you still have a sense of humor. That’s pretty amazing. Even better, you still have this marvelous opportunity embedded in today (or tomorrow, since it’s late) to show up. Get the ego out of the way. Dispose of the judgement and whatever concerns you might have regarding other people’s judgement. Your gift is your presence, for whatever the task at hand is. You don’t have to be good enough. Good enough is a feeling, it isn’t a fact.
You just have to show and you’ll be way ahead of everyone else who is paralyzed by the idea that good enough is a real thing they have to achieve before they can do something great.