My sister has two boys. All the available evidence points to their IQ’s being off the charts. One of the biggest and hardest lessons in front of them is that smart isn’t something that you are, smart is something that you do. It is a way of interrogating the world. Heuristics you use to evaluate information, processes you use to manage your reactions. In short, smart is a function of thinking carefully and honestly.
This started out as my smart girl rules. Some of the rules are gendered, or cis-gendered, and perhaps I will label them as such, but most of them are just the things I’d like my nephews to understand, tools I’d be happy if they used to navigate a strange and complicated world. We’ll see how it goes.